Tired of the BS

I am here because I wanna call out some bullshit. Don't wanna hear what I have to say? Thats okay, click the "x" button. Social media becomes a trap of comparison for most of its users. Why? I don't really know. Do you post every single thing that goes on in your day? Do you post every single bad moment you have? Do you tell the whole world about everything that upsets you? No, probably not. Why? Because nobody's got time for that!!! So why the heck do you sit there and compare yourself to x,y, or z knowing this??? Why do you sit there and examine every single thing about that person wondering how they live this picture perfect life when you sure as shit know they don't?

For example, you might sit there and say wow her stomach is perfect when in reality she sits there and picks it apart most days?? You might think, how does he/she find time to do it all and stay motivated. He/she probably doesn't!!!! No one is motivated 100% of the time. Come on now, let's be real dude! Another personal example, if you weren't with me today you wouldn't know that I fell through a chair and dumped my entire thing of oatmeal all of the floor and landed straight on my a** messing up my lower back (yeah I am a clutz, thnx mom)!!! From one single blip on social media, YOU CAN'T POSSIBLY KNOW ALL OF THESE THINGS. Get where I am going with this? Stop comparing yourself and do your own thing. Focus on you. Focus on where you want to be and how you are going to get there.

Let me tell you how you won't get there. You won't get there by comparing your life to Cassandra's every day on Instagram (completely random picked name so if a Cassandra is reading this, I apologize, LOL). If you want to succeed, if you want to become your best self, if you want to thrive than you need to cut the bullshit and stop comparing yourself to everyone you come across. You need to stop thinking she doesn't have bad days. You need to stop thinking about how you are going to achieve his/her physique. Why? Because you will never be him/her. You will never achieve something you aren't!! You have your own variables and mechanics that play into who you are. Your body, mind, emotions, mental state, etc. are unique, they are YOU.

Set your own goals for you. Work hard for you. Work hard because you want to better yourself across the board. Stop doing things simply to fit in. Stop chasing after something you aren't. Stop lying to yourself. Be you and own you. Love who you are. Love every ounce of you because there's only one of you out there. If you don't look in the mirror every morning proud of who you are, what you are working towards, etc. than why are you doing what you are doing?

Instead of picking yourself apart, try being proud of yourself. Work on loving yourself. Let me go first. I am proud of my strength. I am proud of my determination and dedication. I am proud of my ability to stand up for myself and fight for what I believe in. I love my big heart and ability to care for others. I love my messed up knees. I love my uneven hair part. I love that my eyes change colors randomly based off of what I am wearing. I love that I can walk out of the house without makeup and feel confident in who I am. I love my messy wavy hair. I am proud of the many obstacles I've overcome. I am proud of me. I am proud to be who I am. I love who I am. It's not always easy, but dang it feels good to be proud of who you are and what you stand for.

Now it's your turn. Take out a piece of paper, open up your phone notes, think to yourself, I don't care whatcha do or how you do it, but I want you to think of all the reasons you are proud of yourself/why you love yourself. What makes you proud of YOU? Sounds silly. Sounds kinda dumb. But, I guarantee you it will make you think.

Please be kind to yourself. Please don't compare yourself to anyone except you. Please stop thinking you need to be something you simply aren't. Please don't ever think that I am perfect, that I live a perfect life, or have it all figured out because I will be the first to admit that I don't. However, I do love my life. I do love my journey. I choose to embrace and treasure every single day because I have learned a great deal from every obstacle, good day, bad day, etc. I have learned a lot from myself.

Comparison is the thief of joy. Comparison will devour you. Stop. Be you. Love you.