Learning to Become Happy & Content with Yourself…

Do you find yourself looking for happiness and validation through others? Do you find yourself doing things or possessing certain qualities in order to fit in? What’s your purpose in life? What makes you happy? Who do you want to be? What do you want to accomplish? Are you true to yourself and others around you?

We live in a society where it is tough to be yourself sometimes. I get it, believe me. People won’t always like you. People won’t always agree with you. People can be judgmental. People can make you underestimate yourself. It can be tough. It’s hard to take your own route or pave a path for yourself when you don’t always feel understood. It can be scary. It’s hard to do something different than what the rest of the crowd is doing.

I’m here to tell you that it’s okay to be different. It’s okay to pave your own path. It’s okay to be unique. Not everyone has similar interests. Not everyone is meant to follow the same path. We are all on separate journeys. Recognize that. Stop looking to follow the crowd and find validation for yourself within others. The only person that can validate you and complete you is YOU. You are in control of your life. You dictate your happiness. You have the ability to create the life you want to live. Learn to love yourself. Learn to appreciate your journey and the path you are on.

You will never feel fulfilled if you try to validate yourself through others opinions and thoughts of you. You need to believe you are beautiful. You have to believe you are worthy. You must tell yourself and really believe you are capable. You cannot allow yourself to find truth and meaning to those statements from other people. You are the only person that has the ability to create meaning and happiness from those within yourself. People can complement you and say things to make you feel good, but if you don’t truly believe those things yourself, they mean nothing.

Find a love for your body.

Find meaning in your interactions with others.

Better your mind.

Compliment yourself.

Follow your goals and dreams. Believe that you can and will achieve them.

Believe you are capable.

Don’t sell yourself short.

Find happiness in the little things.

Appreciate your progress.

Enjoy your journey.

It makes me sad to see people so unhappy and lost with themselves. I’m not going to say I haven’t felt this way at times or given second thought to something based off of others opinions, because I have. I think we all have at one point or another.

Social media followers do not define you.

Likes on a picture do not define you.

Your body does not define you.

Your weight does not define you.

Your diet does not define you.

What he/she thinks of you does not define you.

The clothes you wear do not define you.

The job you work does not define you.

The school you attend does not define you.

Your attitude defines you. Your actions define you. Your passions define you. Your love for yourself and others defines you. You choose how you define yourself. Your opinion and happiness comes from within you.

Find contentment and happiness within yourself. Surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you. Be kind to yourself. Recognize those moments where you feel self-doubt. Reassess your thoughts. Change the way you view yourself.

This is my very best advice to you all. Always be happy with yourself. Learn to love and accept yourself. Flaws and all. Do not pick yourself apart. Do not allow your mind or thoughts to tear you down. Remind yourself daily that you are enough because you are. Say it. Remember it. Believe it. 

-Mik <3